Amazing Lush Creamy Cheesecake

I have had a love of desserts from childhood and one of my favorites is cheesecake. The creamy texture and the smooth taste leave my tongue happy. This recipe is easy to accomplish, and the outcome is scrumptious. I have served this cheesecake at many parties and have gotten positive feedback so; I am confident that you will also love it also.



2 cups finely grounder graham wafer

1 stick of melted butter

1 tbsp. sugar

½ tsp cinnamon


2 pkgs cream cheese, room temperature

2 large eggs, room temp.

1 pint sour cream

1/4tsp flour

2 tsp. vanilla extract

1 lemon, zested


Preheat oven to325 degrees. Lower oven rack to center of oven.

For Crust

In a medium bowl, combine graham water and 1 tsp sugar; stir in melted butter. Press mixture in the bottom off a prepared 9×3 greased spring form pan. Bake until firm, 10 min. Let cool on rack.

In a bowl of an electric mixer beat the cream cheese and sugar on low spe3ed for 1 minute until smooth and free for lumps. On low speed, beat in eggs one at a time., sour cream. Flour, lemon zest and vanilla extract until blended. Pour into pan and smooth top of mixture.

Set cheesecake on a large piece of foil paper and fold sides up. Place a roasting pan on the lower oven rack, carefully fill pan halfway with hot water. Place cheesecake on center rack above roasting pan. Pour hot water into the roasting pan until the water is halfway up the sides of the cheesecake. Bake until center jiggles slightly about 50 mins. Do not overcook.

Turn off oven. Let stand in oven with door closed for 45 minutes. Remove, run knife around cake edge to loosen.

Let cool completely on a rack. Cover and refrigerate until completely chill. Unmold and transfer to a plate. Top with whipped cream and melted chocolate. Serve and watch your guests eat and smile with complete satisfactions.

Should a Cheater be Granted a Second Chance?

 *This article is not to indoctrinate, convince or intimidate anyone, but only the opinion of the writer.

When cheating occurs

Cheating is a rather distressing crime of the heart and is usually treated as such by the victim. In a situation like this the victim is feeling overwhelmed, emotionally distraught and most times unforgiving. Their trust has been violated and many times they have been blindside with the cheating. It is understandable that at this point forgiveness or second chances are not in the picture; there are only questions. They begin to ask them self, ‘what went wrong. Was it lack of communication, unsatisfied sex life, financial issues…what could it be’.  

It is healthy to have questions and have them answered so, one can move on to the forgiving process. But, when the anger and pain are fresh that might not be easy. It is wise to take a breather and don’t rush to make any decision. If decisions are made in anger, there is likely going to be regret when temper cools.

Remember, there are three parties that are involved in this equation, the third party is of no importance. The victim is the one that will have the most questions.  Some of these questions should be like:


  ^ Why would they cheat when they know how devastating and hurtful it would be to you?

^ NO EXCUSES. Take responsibility for your actions?

^Why would they destroy the trust you had for them?

^What are their plans to ensure that a situation like cheating never occurs again?

Writing this article, I know that these questions are easier said than done when anger and disappointment are at the forefront of your thoughts.

The healing process

Forgiveness is the only path for emotional healing. It can be depressing walking around feeling angry and discouraged at the cheater. It is necessary to impart forgiveness in order to move on to the next phase of healing. This is not a guarantee that the parties will remain romantically involved however, it is a move in a positive direction.

Second chance or not

To save a relationship and grant a second chance the cheating partner must want the relationship to work.  By this time the cheater should know why the cheating happened.

It is not only the victim that will be determined if the relationship holdup. Cheating is a big test for both people. Cheating will:

In my humble opinion, it will strengthen a relationship if it can be saved.

Should a cheater be granted a second chance is a question that can only be answered by both parties involved.

Making the decision

When both sides have spoken, and everything is out in the open, then it’s time for action. Conversing or quarreling is not going to fix the relationship. However, It may give you a better idea of where the other person is coming from. Thus, the need action. It is important to do things that will improve a situation whether, it is compromising, being more respectful, being more open to intimacy, put away the need for control or being truthful. Whatever the relationship requires for healing should be performed and a second chance is considered.

The outcome

They may come to the agreement that it is not worth saving, the pain is deep and lingering. So, no longer is the question should a cheater be granted a second chance, but how is this split going to be amicable or just be a total disaster. Therefore, it’s best to let things cool before deciding. Before leaving the relationship take a cooling period and how to acclimatize you become to separation and do you want to do a single lifestyle.

Take some time to contemplate ‘leaving or working on the relationship. It will be challenging work and are you ready for it? And so, are you willing to put in the time and effort to make it work and giving it another chance?

Are You Having Great Sex? If Not, Why?

Great sex
great sex

*Before doing any self-diagnosis it is important to consult with a physician and have a thorough examination done.

What turns a woman on?

  Sex should be great most of the time.

There is a plethora of things that turn women on and we are not talking the obvious turn-on methods. Women, especially of a certain age group like to be treated as special. They like to feel desirous, they like to be touched sensually, they appreciate being treated like a lady of good pedigree and they like to communicate. These are the things that turns a woman on and answer the question of ‘are you having great sex.

One thing can help in great sex is the testosterone level. It may seem odd when we mention testosterone, but it is a very important hormone in the struggle for better sex. Usually it’s men that are fascinated with the word, contending that it gives them ‘ignition fuel.’ Women should know that their sex lives are directly affected by the big ‘T.’ They don’t usually have as much as men do however, what they have will get them in a ‘horny frenzy’.

Who is having more sex

In a national social survey done in 2018 found that average aged Americans  between 35-55 were having regular sex 127-135 times a year, which a bit over twice per twice per week. On another hand, there has been a paradigm shift with seniors and how they view sex. No longer a tabu, they are talking about and seeking ways of how to prolong the activity.


Canadians are getting in it on also

While Canadians are the least spontaneous when it comes to sex, they are consistent with the day they choose to do the deed. No longer is “hockey night” the number one thing to do on a Saturday night, having great sex is the new activity.With that said, seniors ages 55-70  are enjoying a  healthy dose of sex at average 4-5 times per month.

Contraceptive not so good for the sex drive

It is said that if you have been on the ‘Pill’ for any period, then your mojo has been put in to hibernation. For whatever reason the pill can put a damper on a woman’s libido and unfortunately there are no statistics to measure the percentage affected. Now, this is not to say the ‘Pill’ is the only guilty party here. The patch, ring and the injection have been noted culprits also.

Another thing that can prevent a woman from having great sex is the present of mental illness. There are many people walking around having a lousy sex life and being aware of suffering from mental illness. This condition can put a dent in any relationship and must be treated by a professional with experience in treating mental health and sexual health




Mental health is a disease that is not partial to anyone at any stage of the life. It can affect every part of daily living, including sex and relationships. However, sex can be a catalyst between depression and low libido due to its ability for mood enhancing.

For example, depression can be a debilitating disease which can plays havoc on the libido and relationship. It creates a feeling of self-loathing and doubt. However, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, with some depression medication the libido can benefit, and sex improved.

Unhealthy Substances

A recent report shows that there is an alarming number of people that are experiencing low or no libido due to the excessive use of alcohol and both prescription and recreational drugs.

It has been noted that no-one has come up with a drug that will l put some heat between the sheets, as yet.  But the hunt is on by the big pharmaceutical companies for a break-through drug. Men have t a bit more fortunate with the ‘front end lifter’ Viagra.

However, with that, the hunt is on by the pharmaceutical companies for a breakthrough drug that will satisfy the need of women. In the mean while there are things that can be used to enhance the sexual experience. These are a few of the popular ones.



Lotions and creams

Books and Magazines

sexual research

Going for a more natural way with:


Is your partner the right one?

Many times, women place the blame on themselves when their sex lives are not fulfilling. Thinking something is wrong with them or they are not doing the right thing. When in fact, it’s their partner that is not ‘stirring the pot’. It could be a medical issue or the female not letting the partner know what pleases her. The women must take responsibility for her sex life and leave it  to her partner. This kinf od dissatisfaction can lead other disfunction in the relationship such as, cheating.

Ask yourself the question

Are you having great sex should be the question that is asked after each encounter. Are you satisfied, do you initiate sex? Do you communicate with your partner on any short comings; communication is the healing force of a troubled relationship.

If you are having sex less than 10 times a month this could mean your marriage is in trouble. Not including physical attribute or illness, the need to having great, healthy, enjoyable sex is umportant for emotional bonding.

Women are sensitive and delicate creatures that want to be like the queen they are but, sometimes there are forces that alter things and throws off the equilibrium of sex. With proper research and good intervention and balance, an encounter can be back with mind blowing sex.