Best Anti- Aging Facial mask made in your kitchen

Facials are a girl over forties best friend and yes guys need facials too. I love getting facials done, but I am not able get one every week so, I opted to do at home facials. These I find work just as well as the ones done in the spa. Over the past couple of years, I have tried several recipes for anti-aging since, I am a woman over forty and want to preserve my skin. I went on a mission to find the best homemade facial mask recipe and have discovered several. Here I am sharing my finds with you, but first…

What are facials?

Dictionary.com says facial is, ‘treatment for beautifying the face. Here at Fabufit we say, ‘rejuvenating and maintenance of skin. Whatever meaning suits you, then go with that.

There just happen to be a myriad of facial masks available, now. And so, no longer do you need to frequent a spa or see a cosmetologist to get a facial. Prepackaged facials are everywhere and can be purchased for a nominal price. The next more convenient method of facials is the home-made

ones. Now, we are going to reveal the best anti-aging facial mask made in your kitchen.

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The Revital Oatmeal Happy Mask

3 tbsp Oatmeal

½ tsp turmeric powder

1 tbsp organic honey

2 tbsp Greek yogurt

In a clean bowl combine all ingredients and mix into a smooth paste. Apply to freshly cleaned face and let it remain for 15 minutes. When mask is dried remove with a warm wet cloth, then rinse face in cold water to close pores. Damp a cotton swab and apply all over the face including the neck. Moisturize well with a hydrating moisturizer.

facial mask

If you have oily skin, then this mask should be used weekly however, if you have normal to combination skin, biweekly is recommended. For those suffering with eczema this is the mask that will relieve itching and help with discoloration.

Why facials are good

Facials are so good for the skin, it improves elasticity, increase collagen production, cleans the pores and brighten the skin, everything you need for younger more vibrant skin and experience the FABUFIT LIFESTYLE

Why Auto Immune Disease is not going to stop Me.

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My Motto and Affirmation

It is said that you are what you believe, and with that, my motto is, I can do all things through the Almighty who strengthens me. I have taken those words literally and they have brought me through many rough times. There have been times that I have felt down and out, depressed and lonely, even though I was not alone, but I felt lonely in my autoimmune disease journey. This was when I started meditating on the words and decided that autoimmune disease was not going to stop me.

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Going It Alone

So, once I started meditating on my motto, I was able to see a light shining through my experience, the dark cloud started lifting and I figured I could achieve my greatness. That’s when I began to grow and come into who I am destined to be. We are all born with an innate need for greatness, but because of the trials of life many of us fail to execute on it. Not only are we made aware of our amazing ability to self-empower, but we can also empower others to do the same.

Empowerment

So, once I started meditating on my motto, I was able to see a light shining through my experience, the dark cloud started lifting and I figured I could achieve my greatness. That’s when I began to grow and come into who I am destined to be. We are all born with an innate need for greatness, but because of the trials of life many of us fail to execute on it. Not only are we made aware of our amazing ability to self-empower, but we can also empower others to do the same.

This journey is not a one-man journey, but one hand washes the other kind. There are many people going through an autoimmune disease, whichever one it may be; and a majority of them need the support of people that have experienced what they are going through. I want to say; it is okay to ask for help and it is even better to receive. The days of keeping your trials and illness a secret is no longer necessary. People are more empathetic and kinder than ever before and are willing to help. Share your journey and your load will be lighter.

The result

So, once I started meditating on my motto, I was able to see a light shining through my experience, the dark cloud started lifting and I figured I could achieve my greatness. That’s when I began to grow and come into who I am destined to be. We are all born with an innate need for greatness, but because of the trials of life many of us fail to execute on it. Not only are we made aware of our amazing ability to self-empower, but we can also empower others to do the same.

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Are you craving sugar like I am?

Sugar, the Bain of my existence. I know it is bad for me and that is why I have put my feet down and is in the process of eliminating it from my diet. It is not easy, but I am committed to overcoming the struggle. Sugar has controlled me for a long time, maybe since I was born. You see, I was born in a family of pastry chefs and bakers and if I can remember I have always been addicted to sugar. I’ll take sugar in my tea and coffee, I love cakes, cookies and ice cream is my go-to comfort food; that explain to me being overweight. But no more am I going to be a slave to the madness. Are you craving sugar like I am? Let me tell you what I am doing about it.

 Once I decided I wanted to eliminate my constant urge for sugar I started weening it out of my diet. I first remove the obvious by not adding it to coffee or tea and no soda, by the following week I was able to stop with pasties, but this was the hardest for me. It took me three weeks to be able to walk past a cookie and succumbing to the temptation. At this time, I have taken the bread out of my diet and I am fine-tuning my eating plan. I have eliminated a lot of foods with added sugar, like ketchup and salad dressings, etc.

 

Why the Caribbean is the ideal vacation destination

vacationing in the Caribbean

It’s vacation time

If you are like I am and its vacation time, then it’s going to be a tossup between a few places. No matter the places we choose the Caribbean is always in the mix. My family and I always vote on the destination we want to go on and the majority wins. Whenever the Caribbean vacation wins I am especially happy since I always have a fantastic time regardless of the country. Here are some of the reasons I listed as to why the Caribbean is the ideal vacation destination.

The beautiful array of people

One thing the Caribbean is known for is the melting pot of different ethnicity you will come across. There is a myriad of people from everywhere in the world that have migrated from different countries and are residing on different islands. They have been integrated into the community and has become part of the landscape. You will find every color, shape and a mixture of local dialectal.

Amazing Weather

Most times the thing that beat us up the is bad weather because of where we are situated. So, when the chance arises it is a pleasure to escape to the awesome sunny climate and the Caribbean vacation usually fits the bill. When traveling it is recommended to keep abreast of the hurricane season and what is going on according to weather.

Abundance of sunshine

Be3cause of the diversity of people living there the food is just as diverse. An abundance of cuisine will be available for every pallet.

Wide Range of Activities

Boredom is not something you will experience on a Caribbean vacation a matter of fact, the activities are endless, the issue will be what to do? There are places to go as well as shopping. My best advice is to plan your activities beforehand so as not to become overwhelmed regardless of the situation,

Easy Access

The Caribbean is an ideal destination spot no matter where you are coming from. It is an area spanning between the southeast of the Gulf of Mexico and the North American mainland. East of Central America and north of South America. There are over 7,000 Caribbean island reefs, cays and islands but only 2% of them are inhabited. There are 12 dependent islands and 13 sovereigns scattered in this area. The islands are divided into two regions, the Greater Antilles and the Lesser Antilles, together you get the West Indies.

What Else Is There

The West Indies or the Caribbean is also known for its wide array of exotic cuisine There is a fusion of combine ethnic flavors that captures the essence of each island. The flavors span from Africa to Europe and India and make for a unique experience. For natives of the Caribbean when celebrating or interacting food plays an important role and each island has its own national dish. Here are some of the islands and their dishes:

Aruba-Keshi Yene

British Virgin Island -Fungi(banana) and fish

The Bahamas- Cracked Conch and Rice and Peas-

Barbados-Flying fish and coo coo; cornmeal Cooked with okra (much like polenta) and served with flying fish.

Cayman Island-Turtle

Cuba- Yellow bean and rice topped with shredded beef steak that has been cooked in a tomato base.

Dominica-Callaloo soup

Guyana- Pepper pot

Jamaica- Ackee, and saltfish

Trinidad and Tobago-

Grenada-Oil Down- Ground provisions Cooked in coconut milk with pigtail, seasoned with local herbs and spices.

St. Lucia= figs(banana)and saltfish

The beautiful array of people

Free Yourself from the Financial Bondage




You should know that I wrote this ARTICLE for this women’s shack for information on getting rid of poorness and living a good sustainable life. Being poor and in debt can be debilitating and frustrating at the same time. It feels like being in bondage and not knowing how to get out. I have seen women broken and on the verge of giving up because their future and that of their families seem grim. Nothing is worse than not having hope and not being able to see your way out.
It has been in my heart to have a place that will facilitate the growth of women that want to step outside without an umbrella and feel the rain fall on their faces. Women that are fearless and want to experience something more with the hope of changing their lives. So, they can eventually experience an abundant life. Reaching that stage of abundance is having excess or more than needed.
The Fear Factor
Being in financial bondage or being in debt is not without hope.
That annoying little man in the purple suit that follows you around and whispers negativeness in your ears must be stopped. He is none other than Dolphus Fear–ruthless and conniving. He makes you feel less than you are and that you are incapable of doing things. However, I am here to tell you he has a lying tongue. When he is on your tail, block him out with a little sentence that goes like this, “I am unique and can do all things that are placed in your heart”. This is something you must believe yourself; Dolphus Fear must stop plaguing you. If the Father placed it in your heart, then you can succeed. You must create your own dynasty.
Taking the first step
In my opinion, making the first move to evict poorness out of your life won’t be an easy task. Sometimes, for example, individuals want to make a change but are unsure how to. What is the first step? Where do you go from the point you are at? I can you tell you that changing your mind set is the first move. Believing you can move into a different realm will give you that edge. Have a laser focus on what you want. I vividly recalled when I first started my home based business, my pursuit for success was relentless. I had a rapacious-working appetite. Folks will tell you to have a balance, and I am sure they are right. However, when you want to move forward out of an uncomfortable situation, then balance is not on the agenda. You’ve got to have a hunger and a drive to succeed, this is a dog eat dog industry; sounds like super cliche. Let reality be embedded in your perspectives.
 

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When Your Body Overheats Easily

Why you are hot

Don’t we love summer? Yes, the days are filled with birds chirping, children idly playing, butterflies flutter all around and the warm delicious breeze blowing through your hair makes this the most enjoyable time of the year. It is enjoyable, but if you are over-heating and miserable it’s not that enjoyable.
Is it hot or is it me?
it is brought on by changes in the body or changes in the weather. Whatever one is causing the discomfort there is help. Many people find summer to be uncomfortable due to soaring temperature and inability to keep cool. On another level there are women that sleep experts say are not getting enough sleep in the summer because of being in menopause. They struggle with the heat and getting to sleep can be an exhausting chore. 60 percent of over 50 women is said to be sleep deprived due to the summer temperature and menopause combined.
Women going through the ‘change of life’ seem to have one thing in common, over heating or otherwise known as hot flashes. This is an uncomfortable situation which seem to come on without notice. Hot flashes usually start right before menopause set in; perimenopause

Don’t we love summer? Yes, the days are filled with birds chirping, children

Is it hot or is it me?

This is a question asked over and over by women of a certain age, whether it is brought on by changes in the body or changes in the weather. Whatever one is causing the discomfort there is help. Many people find summer to be uncomfortable due to soaring temperature and inability to keep cool. On another level there are women that sleep experts say are not getting enough sleep in the summer because of being in menopause. They struggle with the heat and getting to sleep can be an exhausting chore. 60 percent of over 50 women is said to be sleep deprived due to the summer temperature and menopause combined.

Women going through the ‘change of life’ seem to have one thing in common, over heating or otherwise known as hot flashes. This is an uncomfortable situation which seem to come on without notice. Hot flashes usually start right before menopause set in; perimenopause. These hot flashes may continue 5-6 months after menopause start and sometimes linger on for many years after.

Hot flashes can be recognized by the varying characteristics:

  • Skin gets warm and sometimes damp
  • Sweating profusely, mainly in the upper body
  • Rising heat in the body           
  • Tingling in the fingers
  • Palpitating heart rate
  • Feeling flush

Hot flashes Triggers

There seem to be common trigger that affects women:

  • Spicy food is a culprit of hot flashes
  • Hormone changes cause hot flashes when menopause occurs
  • Being stressed, anxious or overly excited
  • Consuming alcohol or caffeine
  • Being in a hot environment example, hot room or car etc.
  • Wearing tight clothing which impedes air flow to the body
  • Smoking or being exposed to cigarette smoke.

Having a consultation with a physician to determine the best course of treatment.

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Amazing Lush Creamy Cheesecake

I have had a love of desserts from childhood and one of my favorites is cheesecake. The creamy texture and the smooth taste leave my tongue happy. This recipe is easy to accomplish, and the outcome is scrumptious. I have served this cheesecake at many parties and have gotten positive feedback so; I am confident that you will also love it also.

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DELICIOUS CHEESECAKE

Crust

2 cups finely grounder graham wafer

1 stick of melted butter

1 tbsp. sugar

½ tsp cinnamon

Filling

2 pkgs cream cheese, room temperature

2 large eggs, room temp.

1 pint sour cream

1/4tsp flour

2 tsp. vanilla extract

1 lemon, zested

Method

Preheat oven to325 degrees. Lower oven rack to center of oven.

For Crust

In a medium bowl, combine graham water and 1 tsp sugar; stir in melted butter. Press mixture in the bottom off a prepared 9×3 greased spring form pan. Bake until firm, 10 min. Let cool on rack.

In a bowl of an electric mixer beat the cream cheese and sugar on low spe3ed for 1 minute until smooth and free for lumps. On low speed, beat in eggs one at a time., sour cream. Flour, lemon zest and vanilla extract until blended. Pour into pan and smooth top of mixture.

Set cheesecake on a large piece of foil paper and fold sides up. Place a roasting pan on the lower oven rack, carefully fill pan halfway with hot water. Place cheesecake on center rack above roasting pan. Pour hot water into the roasting pan until the water is halfway up the sides of the cheesecake. Bake until center jiggles slightly about 50 mins. Do not overcook.

Turn off oven. Let stand in oven with door closed for 45 minutes. Remove, run knife around cake edge to loosen.

Let cool completely on a rack. Cover and refrigerate until completely chill. Unmold and transfer to a plate. Top with whipped cream and melted chocolate. Serve and watch your guests eat and smile with complete satisfactions.

Should a Cheater be Granted a Second Chance?

 *This article is not to indoctrinate, convince or intimidate anyone, but only the opinion of the writer.

When cheating occurs

Cheating is a rather distressing crime of the heart and is usually treated as such by the victim. In a situation like this the victim is feeling overwhelmed, emotionally distraught and most times unforgiving. Their trust has been violated and many times they have been blindside with the cheating. It is understandable that at this point forgiveness or second chances are not in the picture; there are only questions. They begin to ask them self, ‘what went wrong. Was it lack of communication, unsatisfied sex life, financial issues…what could it be’.  

It is healthy to have questions and have them answered so, one can move on to the forgiving process. But, when the anger and pain are fresh that might not be easy. It is wise to take a breather and don’t rush to make any decision. If decisions are made in anger, there is likely going to be regret when temper cools.

Remember, there are three parties that are involved in this equation, the third party is of no importance. The victim is the one that will have the most questions.  Some of these questions should be like:

Questions

  ^ Why would they cheat when they know how devastating and hurtful it would be to you?

^ NO EXCUSES. Take responsibility for your actions?

^Why would they destroy the trust you had for them?

^What are their plans to ensure that a situation like cheating never occurs again?

Writing this article, I know that these questions are easier said than done when anger and disappointment are at the forefront of your thoughts.

The healing process

Forgiveness is the only path for emotional healing. It can be depressing walking around feeling angry and discouraged at the cheater. It is necessary to impart forgiveness in order to move on to the next phase of healing. This is not a guarantee that the parties will remain romantically involved however, it is a move in a positive direction.

Second chance or not

To save a relationship and grant a second chance the cheating partner must want the relationship to work.  By this time the cheater should know why the cheating happened.

It is not only the victim that will be determined if the relationship holdup. Cheating is a big test for both people. Cheating will:

In my humble opinion, it will strengthen a relationship if it can be saved.

Should a cheater be granted a second chance is a question that can only be answered by both parties involved.

Making the decision

When both sides have spoken, and everything is out in the open, then it’s time for action. Conversing or quarreling is not going to fix the relationship. However, It may give you a better idea of where the other person is coming from. Thus, the need action. It is important to do things that will improve a situation whether, it is compromising, being more respectful, being more open to intimacy, put away the need for control or being truthful. Whatever the relationship requires for healing should be performed and a second chance is considered.

The outcome

They may come to the agreement that it is not worth saving, the pain is deep and lingering. So, no longer is the question should a cheater be granted a second chance, but how is this split going to be amicable or just be a total disaster. Therefore, it’s best to let things cool before deciding. Before leaving the relationship take a cooling period and how to acclimatize you become to separation and do you want to do a single lifestyle.

Take some time to contemplate ‘leaving or working on the relationship. It will be challenging work and are you ready for it? And so, are you willing to put in the time and effort to make it work and giving it another chance?

Are You Having Great Sex? If Not, Why?

Great sex
great sex

*Before doing any self-diagnosis it is important to consult with a physician and have a thorough examination done.

What turns a woman on?

  Sex should be great most of the time.

There is a plethora of things that turn women on and we are not talking the obvious turn-on methods. Women, especially of a certain age group like to be treated as special. They like to feel desirous, they like to be touched sensually, they appreciate being treated like a lady of good pedigree and they like to communicate. These are the things that turns a woman on and answer the question of ‘are you having great sex.

One thing can help in great sex is the testosterone level. It may seem odd when we mention testosterone, but it is a very important hormone in the struggle for better sex. Usually it’s men that are fascinated with the word, contending that it gives them ‘ignition fuel.’ Women should know that their sex lives are directly affected by the big ‘T.’ They don’t usually have as much as men do however, what they have will get them in a ‘horny frenzy’.

Who is having more sex

In a national social survey done in 2018 found that average aged Americans  between 35-55 were having regular sex 127-135 times a year, which a bit over twice per twice per week. On another hand, there has been a paradigm shift with seniors and how they view sex. No longer a tabu, they are talking about and seeking ways of how to prolong the activity.

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Canadians are getting in it on also

While Canadians are the least spontaneous when it comes to sex, they are consistent with the day they choose to do the deed. No longer is “hockey night” the number one thing to do on a Saturday night, having great sex is the new activity.With that said, seniors ages 55-70  are enjoying a  healthy dose of sex at average 4-5 times per month.

Contraceptive not so good for the sex drive

It is said that if you have been on the ‘Pill’ for any period, then your mojo has been put in to hibernation. For whatever reason the pill can put a damper on a woman’s libido and unfortunately there are no statistics to measure the percentage affected. Now, this is not to say the ‘Pill’ is the only guilty party here. The patch, ring and the injection have been noted culprits also.

Another thing that can prevent a woman from having great sex is the present of mental illness. There are many people walking around having a lousy sex life and being aware of suffering from mental illness. This condition can put a dent in any relationship and must be treated by a professional with experience in treating mental health and sexual health

Depression  

Stress

Anxiety

Mental health is a disease that is not partial to anyone at any stage of the life. It can affect every part of daily living, including sex and relationships. However, sex can be a catalyst between depression and low libido due to its ability for mood enhancing.

For example, depression can be a debilitating disease which can plays havoc on the libido and relationship. It creates a feeling of self-loathing and doubt. However, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, with some depression medication the libido can benefit, and sex improved.

Unhealthy Substances

A recent report shows that there is an alarming number of people that are experiencing low or no libido due to the excessive use of alcohol and both prescription and recreational drugs.

It has been noted that no-one has come up with a drug that will l put some heat between the sheets, as yet.  But the hunt is on by the big pharmaceutical companies for a break-through drug. Men have t a bit more fortunate with the ‘front end lifter’ Viagra.

However, with that, the hunt is on by the pharmaceutical companies for a breakthrough drug that will satisfy the need of women. In the mean while there are things that can be used to enhance the sexual experience. These are a few of the popular ones.

Vibrators

Stimulator

Lotions and creams

Books and Magazines

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Going for a more natural way with:

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Is your partner the right one?

Many times, women place the blame on themselves when their sex lives are not fulfilling. Thinking something is wrong with them or they are not doing the right thing. When in fact, it’s their partner that is not ‘stirring the pot’. It could be a medical issue or the female not letting the partner know what pleases her. The women must take responsibility for her sex life and leave it  to her partner. This kinf od dissatisfaction can lead other disfunction in the relationship such as, cheating.

Ask yourself the question

Are you having great sex should be the question that is asked after each encounter. Are you satisfied, do you initiate sex? Do you communicate with your partner on any short comings; communication is the healing force of a troubled relationship.

If you are having sex less than 10 times a month this could mean your marriage is in trouble. Not including physical attribute or illness, the need to having great, healthy, enjoyable sex is umportant for emotional bonding.

Women are sensitive and delicate creatures that want to be like the queen they are but, sometimes there are forces that alter things and throws off the equilibrium of sex. With proper research and good intervention and balance, an encounter can be back with mind blowing sex.